It’s time to reply with good projection “I won’t date anyone who isn’t my future husband anymore!” the next time you’re invited on a date.
People have been dating for thousands of years and from time to time, people have been married. Dating isn’t only about being together with someone because you simply enjoy spending time with each other! The dating stage should be taken seriously, but nowadays so many people don’t take it seriously and they even think that dating is just a waste of time. Dating is about getting to know someone better for your future life partner, so you can’t date everyone! It should be only with the one who has similar beliefs, values and dreams as you and that person could also perhaps become your future spouse!
I won’t date anyone who isn’t my future husband anymore!
Dating is a huge commitment and anyone who wants to date you needs to be worth it. Spending time dating someone means getting close, getting personal and eventually becoming vulnerable in front of them. Dating also means that person has the power to break your heart or make you feel loved for the first time in your life. Dating should only happen if both people want marriage, because otherwise there’s not much point at all! If you’re waiting for Mr. Right then that person should be someone who has similar beliefs, values and dreams to yours! It’s definitely not good if he doesn’t want what you want: marriage and children one day, so don’t waste time on anyone else when they clearly aren’t what you need!
When dating a man, you must ask yourself if this would be a man you’d want to marry. Dating is not just about being in love or being crazy about someone. Dating means that you will have to spend the rest of your life with this person and share everything together… even kids! So why bother going out with someone who doesn’t respect marriage as much as you do?
Some women think it’s silly to bring up marriage during dates, but I don’t agree at all! If he doesn’t feel like getting married (and having kids) one day then what’s there to talk about, really? What kind of connection are you actually building? Nothing at all! Dating a person who doesn’t want marriage is a waste of time. And you’d should rather stay single forever than to start going out with someone without the same values as you. There’s nothing wrong about being overly picky, because you only have one life and no time to waste on people who don’t respect your dreams!
When it comes to beliefs and values, these are the core building blocks for any relationship. It’s difficult to develop any sort of meaningful relationship with someone that has differing beliefs and values to you. It’s easy to spend time with a man who is kind and knows how to show you a good time. But what are his core values? What does he believe (about the important topics: marriage, parenting, finance, faith)? These are the topics that must be broached. Failing to do open discussions on the serious topics can cause serious damage down the line. That’s why it’s important to get into these things first to save time and heartache.
Failing to do open discussions on the serious topics can cause serious damage down the line.
With the various ways that people are meeting potential significant others these days, it can be easy and speedy to discover whether a man is a suiter or not. This is good because it saves time, but it can also make miss or ignore signals telling you that something’s not right. Don’t ignore the red flags that suggest he is not as serious as you first believed. It’s always better to trust your intuition and avoid the danger. Let him show you honestly and biblically why there is no danger rather than you waiting for something to happen to show there is no red flag. That seldom happens and it’s not the way it should be: he must be held accountable for the red flags.
Don’t ignore the red flags that suggest he is not as serious as you first believed.
The reason why you must stick to “I won’t date anyone who isn’t my future husband anymore!” is because not doing so can lead to wasting time and getting hurt by men with whom you were never supposed to have more than a 5-minute conversation. Then who knows what Mr. Right will be faced with when you do meet: battling all the hurts the previous man caused or being tarnished with the same brush as the previous man. Be patient and do what you can do before you find your spouse.
Now What?
I hope everyone will understand that it’s not silly at all to think this way. In fact, it’s the most logical thing in the world. Dating someone just for fun or to have a fling can seem fun but when you’re looking for marriage then why bother wasting months or even years with a man who isn’t interested in getting married? And here’s a tip to hold onto: Dating should happen after marriage too, and if he isn’t talking about marriage now he probably won’t in the future! Dating should only happen if both people want marriage, because otherwise there’s not much point at all!
Don’t give up hope! Don’t lower your expectations! God has somebody perfect just waiting for you out there somewhere so keep seeking Him for guidance as He will lead us into His perfect plan that we cannot see.
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