Nearly all married men, if asked whether their wife is number one in their life, would answer, YES! Yet, so many wives, if asked whether they feel they are number one in their marriage, would answer, NO! I can hear some smart guy saying “God is number one in our marriage” and I’d have to agree because that should be the case, but please bear with me. Actually don’t bear with me, I’ll rephrase the question.
Is your wife the number one physical thing in your marriage? If your wife had to list 10 things that she loves that you do for her, would she struggle?
I have a friend who was having a tough time in his marriage and the problem arose because he was spending time and money on his mother and far less time and money on his wife. He didn’t understand why his marriage was being affected because he saw what he was doing as a necessity for his mother, whom he loves dearly.
The Holy Bible says something powerful in the book of Genesis, it says Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. Why is this so powerful? Most men comprehend the notion of leaving their mother and father and the notion of being joined to their wife. However, it’s the final part of the verse that men stumble upon (and they shall become one flesh). Which is so vital for married men to understand. To focus on your wife is to focus on yourself and to focus on yourself is to focus on your wife. God is saying that a man and a woman become one when they are married, spiritually. And we know that what happens in the spirit is manifested in the physical. So, when we see men not having a focus on their wives wants and needs, there is a lack of understanding this spiritual principle.
To focus on your wife is to focus on yourself and to focus on yourself is to focus on your wife
Now, what are you going to do about it? The verse that follows the one above says And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed. You’re going to do exactly as the word of God says: No more hiding behind “this is the way things are”, “our marriage isn’t so bad”, “I’m doing my best” and the many other excuses you can come up with. You are going to be naked and not ashamed.
Naked: Bearing all truth about your current situation with no excuses, taking total ownership like the leader you are. Communicating the truth with your wife and your willingness to make a change.
Not Ashamed: Open and honest, with yourself and your wife, putting aside pride and feelings of failure and guilt because you want to take your marriage to new heights and places so wonderful.
Know that you do not need a plan or to have everything figured out to be naked and not ashamed. You only need the willingness and the desire for a marriage the way God intended in the beginning.
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