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Men don’t often verbalise these things, but they are darn sure clear about them in their mind. The qualities they are looking for in their wife to be.

No, men are not just looking for a wife that is pleasing to the eyes. Obviously, that is something that plays a part. Some people might say that the qualities men look for in a wife are purely personal and depend upon the individual man.

However, there are some qualities that are almost universally desired in a wife by men across cultures.

These are the 7 Qualities Men Look for in a Wife

1. Respect

All men want to be loved, but every man needs the respect of his significant other. A key component for a man to lead his wife effectively is to have her respect. Give a man respect and you’ll get anything you want from him. That might seem like the golden ticket to some women, and it kind of is. But what about when a man is enabled to be all he is supposed to be because his wife gives him the fuel to do so. Yes, that’s what the respect of a wife does for a man.

Ephisians 5:33 says Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. Notice how the scripture says that wives should see that they love respect their husband. Why is this important? So many marriages breakdown or do not reach the heights that they could do because men are not respected by their significant other. They are loved and cared for but the main ingredient, respect, is missing.

Women must learn this major key to unlocking The Secret of a Successful Marriage.

2. Homemaker

Women with a career are generally viewed as independent individuals, able to stand on their own two feet. But the fact is, a man values a woman that is able to keep the home in order.

This doesn’t mean slaving in the kitchen or scrubbing floors on your hands and knees, but it does mean your home is in order when it comes to the kitchen and the cleaning.

There should be an understanding that the duties around the home are shared, but a man that is serious wants to know that a potential wife is capable around the home or is willing to learn.

Men look for homemaker qualities in women because the natural desire to please and the ability to create a comfortable and beautiful home life shows your femininity, which men do not have (to the same degree as women).

3. Adventurous

I don’t know the number of women who’ve climbed mount Everest, and maybe you’ll be one of them. Whilst that’s super impressive, most men are not looking for huge feats in the area of adventure. Are you open to trying new foods, doing a sport/activity you’ve never tried before? There are many things that qualify you as being adventurous, but the point is, once you’re married, you’re going to be able to keep your marriage fresh and exciting by being open to trying new things.

This is a quality that helps in many other areas too. Are you open to trying new investments? Perhaps there’s an opportunity for a home relocate? Maybe your intimate time could do with some more adventure?

If you’re open to trying something new, there’s an adventure to be had and a memory to be made.

4. Sexuality

Sexuality is an important quality which men look for in their potential wife. Women with a strong sex drive will be able to satisfy their husbands’ needs and ensure that they do not seek satisfaction from other women.

When it comes to sex, men are pretty simple creatures. They want a woman who is attractive to them, and who is willing to be sexual with them.

Although most men see sex as a great source of pleasure, they’re also very conscious that it can be used to create life which is the most precious gift in the world. For this reason, men seeking a wife want to know that a potential wife is willing to bear them children.

5. Supportive

Everyone likes to be supported in their decisions, endeavours and other choices. However, a married man that leads his household effectively will value the supportiveness of a wife that much more.

When it’s time to make that tough decision, a husband needs to know that, come what may, he has the support of his wife. Mistakes can be made and if you plan on marrying a hu-man the likelihood of a mistake or miscalculation is likely.

A man wants to partner with a supportive and loyal woman, especially as he looks forward and considers marriage and even children.

6. Proactive

A man leads his household, that is true. However, men love proactive women. They love a woman who knows what she wants and goes out and gets it. They admire a woman with ambition and drive. A woman who takes charge of her life and sets goals for herself is a turn on for any man.

A proactive woman knows what is important in her life and can prioritise the things that matter. This is a quality that men value because women are often called to various duties e.g. career/business, wife, parent, and having this quality shows that you are equipped for said duties.

So, if you want to attract a husband, be proactive. Show him that you are a woman who is in control of her life and knows what she wants. Let him see that you are a go-getter, an able manager, and he will be drawn to you like a magnet.

7. Faith

A woman of faith is not solely led by her feelings and this virtue let’s a man know that he can rely on her wholeheartedly. A woman of faith values the importance of her union and her family not because it makes her happy, but because of the importance of her role in the sight of God.

When a woman is committed to her faith in Jesus, the right man will know that that commitment will translate into a committed wife. A wife that will not only submit to him, but one who will lead as she is called, lift him up when needed and be praying for him always.

BONUS

Sense of Humour
Humour is highly prized by men as it gives them some relief from their often-stressful work lives. For this reason, women with a good sense of humour who can laugh at themselves will be viewed as very attractive.

Health and Fitness
A woman’s health and fitness shows that she takes good care of herself and can take care of others in turn. This, together with her natural beauty, makes men view such women as sexual and hold them in a higher esteem. Men value such women as they want to be assured that their wives will be able to bear them healthy children.

In closing

None of this is one way, it applies to men too, but these are things that you, as a woman, can work on to make sure your husband has a well-rounded version of you to begin with. You’ll certainly become the best version of yourself with your husband, otherwise, what was the point marrying him (I think I’ve just got the title for another blog post).

Stay positive and continue working on yourself, your husband is seeking you. Keep on developing the qualities in this article within you and you’ll increase your value and exclusivity as a wife to be.

It’s time to reply with good projection “I won’t date anyone who isn’t my future husband anymore!” the next time you’re invited on a date.

People have been dating for thousands of years and from time to time, people have been married. Dating isn’t only about being together with someone because you simply enjoy spending time with each other! The dating stage should be taken seriously, but nowadays so many people don’t take it seriously and they even think that dating is just a waste of time. Dating is about getting to know someone better for your future life partner, so you can’t date everyone! It should be only with the one who has similar beliefs, values and dreams as you and that person could also perhaps become your future spouse!

I won’t date anyone who isn’t my future husband anymore!

Dating is a huge commitment and anyone who wants to date you needs to be worth it. Spending time dating someone means getting close, getting personal and eventually becoming vulnerable in front of them. Dating also means that person has the power to break your heart or make you feel loved for the first time in your life. Dating should only happen if both people want marriage, because otherwise there’s not much point at all! If you’re waiting for Mr. Right then that person should be someone who has similar beliefs, values and dreams to yours! It’s definitely not good if he doesn’t want what you want: marriage and children one day, so don’t waste time on anyone else when they clearly aren’t what you need!

When dating a man, you must ask yourself if this would be a man you’d want to marry. Dating is not just about being in love or being crazy about someone. Dating means that you will have to spend the rest of your life with this person and share everything together… even kids! So why bother going out with someone who doesn’t respect marriage as much as you do?

Some women think it’s silly to bring up marriage during dates, but I don’t agree at all! If he doesn’t feel like getting married (and having kids) one day then what’s there to talk about, really? What kind of connection are you actually building? Nothing at all! Dating a person who doesn’t want marriage is a waste of time. And you’d should rather stay single forever than to start going out with someone without the same values as you. There’s nothing wrong about being overly picky, because you only have one life and no time to waste on people who don’t respect your dreams!

When it comes to beliefs and values, these are the core building blocks for any relationship. It’s difficult to develop any sort of meaningful relationship with someone that has differing beliefs and values to you. It’s easy to spend time with a man who is kind and knows how to show you a good time. But what are his core values? What does he believe (about the important topics: marriage, parenting, finance, faith)? These are the topics that must be broached. Failing to do open discussions on the serious topics can cause serious damage down the line. That’s why it’s important to get into these things first to save time and heartache.

Failing to do open discussions on the serious topics can cause serious damage down the line.

With the various ways that people are meeting potential significant others these days, it can be easy and speedy to discover whether a man is a suiter or not. This is good because it saves time, but it can also make miss or ignore signals telling you that something’s not right. Don’t ignore the red flags that suggest he is not as serious as you first believed. It’s always better to trust your intuition and avoid the danger. Let him show you honestly and biblically why there is no danger rather than you waiting for something to happen to show there is no red flag. That seldom happens and it’s not the way it should be: he must be held accountable for the red flags.

Don’t ignore the red flags that suggest he is not as serious as you first believed.

The reason why you must stick to “I won’t date anyone who isn’t my future husband anymore!” is because not doing so can lead to wasting time and getting hurt by men with whom you were never supposed to have more than a 5-minute conversation. Then who knows what Mr. Right will be faced with when you do meet: battling all the hurts the previous man caused or being tarnished with the same brush as the previous man. Be patient and do what you can do before you find your spouse.  

Now What?

I hope everyone will understand that it’s not silly at all to think this way. In fact, it’s the most logical thing in the world. Dating someone just for fun or to have a fling can seem fun but when you’re looking for marriage then why bother wasting months or even years with a man who isn’t interested in getting married? And here’s a tip to hold onto: Dating should happen after marriage too, and if he isn’t talking about marriage now he probably won’t in the future! Dating should only happen if both people want marriage, because otherwise there’s not much point at all!

Don’t give up hope! Don’t lower your expectations! God has somebody perfect just waiting for you out there somewhere so keep seeking Him for guidance as He will lead us into His perfect plan that we cannot see.